Sexual Performance Anxiety in Men

Maybe it has happened to you. It’s the end of a fantastic date. Everything has gone perfectly. Now you are heading to her front door and she invites you in. It might be the first sexual encounter between you two and you want to set a precedent. You want to be the best she’s ever had. But as soon as that thought crosses your mind, your desire to please her and outdo her last partners turns to paranoia. You start to wonder, what if she thinks I’m small? How big have her other lovers been? What if I can’t last long enough to make her orgasm? What if I can’t giver an orgasm? Once you go down that rabbit hole, only disaster awaits you. Then you start to panic. This has never happened to you before. You aren’t hard yet and she’s already ready to go. You try to stall her, and force yourself to show up for work. You try to think of all the most arousing things in your memory bank, all to no avail. If it’s the first time experiencing sexual performance anxiety, you might keep trying to force yourself up, making it ever more futile, for until the woman becomes frustrated. Then the mess just gets worse. She thinks that something is wrong with her, that you aren’t attracted to her, and can get quite upset over it. It could destroy any chance of a future rendezvous . Incidents like this can be even more perplexing if you don’t know the cause, or even proper diagnosis, of the problem. You could think you’re suffering from erectile dysfunction and unnecessarily take medication for that. Not knowing could cause you to feel more apprehensive about sexual encounters and avoid them, seriously degrade your self-esteem, destroy your relationship, and eventually lead to an actual, physical sexual dysfunction. Anxiety can cause your body to release certain chemicals into your blood stream that physically prevent you from achieving an erection. Don’t let that happen. As trite as it might sound,the problem is, quite literally, all in your head.

The first thing to do after experiencing sexual performance anxiety is to try and take a step back and be reflective about your life. Stress, the feeling that so profoundly effects the physical body, can be the cause of your problem. Even if you don’t feel stressed out originally, think about life. Ponder any problems that might be plaguing your conscious. Try to work things out in your mind, and you’ll be surprised by how effective that can be.

Don’t let the previous incident snowball into future sexual performance anxiety. Just because it happened to you once doesn’t mean that you are prone to it. Try to clear your mind of all negative, discouraging, stressful thoughts. The effects of positive thinking cannot be overstated. Slow down. Try to appreciate the opportunity before you and ignore that pessimistic voice in the back of your head. You’ve done this before and you can do it again. Whatever you do, don’t let a past failure or failures cripple you. Get back on the horse, as they say. Only you, through positive thinking, can overcome your sexual performance anxiety.

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